Increasingly, there is a move toward alternate sexual expression.  Swinger lifestyles are no longer “skeletons in the cupboard” for many people, unless they condemn themselves for this lifestyle.  Research again shows that many couples derive high levels of joy and bonding from sharing their sexual experiences more broadly.  Men and women report high levels of sexual excitement at seeing their partners openly receiving sexual pleasure from others and do not assume that this means the partners love for them is in any way reduced.  Secrecy and guilt are the cancer that rots the soul.

Long established couples often come to the point where their sexual lives are repetitive and unfulfilling.  Clearly, the challenge is to change or to let that part of their lives (and souls) die.  Sadly, many choose to let their sexual relationship fade away to oblivion.  Research amongst the aged shows that the longing never dies.  Failure to maintain sexual communication is to deny your humanity and worth.

It is educative to observe the nature of pornography.  Almost by definition, it is focussed on the taboo. 

; Sex between old men and young girls (or vice versa), lolitas, gangbangs, domination, gay sex, lesbian sex, group sex, bride sex and gangbangs with the bridal party, “housewife sluts” and “MILFS” (mothers I’d like to f*ck), horny nuns and priests, indiscriminate sex, college sex, anonymous sex (e.g. glory holes, stranger sex, f*cking the plumber/police officer etc), boss and secretary sex…You name it, no taboo is left unexplored in pornography.  The market for pornography is a society where the freedom to express oneself sexually with consenting partners is denied.

This article is not encouraging you to change your sexual behaviour, but does encourage you to think about how you can express your sexuality in a way that acknowledges your values, desires and individuality.  What would be your response if your wife, husband, girlfriend, boyfriend suggested group sex?  Or a gangbang?  Or a threesome? 

Will you condemn them as a deviant?  Or will you acknowledge their right to sexual expression?  You may decide not to take up such suggestions because that is your right.  But appreciate open, honest and respectful communication in whatever form it comes and respond in kind.